I am feminine. I want to be feminine. I like being feminine and looking feminine. However, I often struggle to feel like I look feminine. I delved into the major source of my struggles a bit when I talked about being tall, but it has been something I have struggled with since I was a young teen and first worrying about my appearance and presentation.
I find gender fascinating, even though I’ve never had to struggle with my own gender identity – I’m female and happily so. But I have many internal and external traits that are not considered feminine – I’m tall, I’m a scientist, I have broad shoulders, I like using power tools, I’m very analytical, I have huge feet – and sometimes I feel like others don’t see me as feminine, and that’s hard for me.
I’m still exploring what parts of feminine clothing appeal to me. I love wearing dresses and skirts all year round. I love miniskirts and maxi skirts and party dresses and sundresses. I don’t like wearing ruffles. I always love lace in theory (as my Pinterest inspiration board will attest) but I rarely feel comfortable in it in practice. I love floral prints, but feel silly wearing them unless they are big and bold.
Sewing has very much helped me to feel like I look feminine. Sewing clothes that fit is a major part of it – I can emphasize my more feminine physical aspects (like my small waist and large hips) and minimize my more masculine physical aspects (like my broad shoulders) by fitting clothes to my body in a way that I can never get off the rack.
How does sewing fit with your gender identity? Do you like to sew feminine clothes?
Each week this year I’m going to reflect on an aspect of myself and how it affects me as a sewist, crafter, or blogger. It may get deep, it may get emotional, it may get totally silly. It may be something I’m proud of, it may be something I cringe at, it may be something I aspire to. I may say a lot, I may say a little, I may ask questions, I may not answer them. I don’t quite know where the project will take me, but I’m excited about the journey. I’d be honored to have you join me on this journey. Chime in any time this year in my blog comments, on Twitter, Instagram, or your own blog. Join me in my theme for the week or make up your own.